Mr. Spencer:

It is not of my normal nature to ask questions of those of whom I do not know but here it goes. My husband and I are both members of the LDS church. My husband hasn't been active since he was 10 (19 years ago). I have not been active since 16 years old(11 years ago). We had started to go to church for the kids. Anyway we have been married for 9 years and my husband had just informed me that he didn't believe in the LDS church anymore. He had taken 2 months to tell me for fear of my response.

I told my husband that his doubts were his not mine and I didn't marry him because of the religion and didn't expect him to change (he was as surprised as I was about my response) for me or anyone.

Anyway trying to make a very long story short he read your book _Beyond Mormonism: An Elder's Story_ and he had me read it also. I had told him to not try and convert me for I needed something to believe in, and there is nothing that would ever change my faith in my religion but I agreed so that I could understand his view and understand why he had made that choice. I understood all too well.

I am scared!! I have just found out about something that has been a part of my life, and now I feel--in my heart--that itis not true. I know no other way to believe. Everyone in my family is very religious Mormons: (Missions, temple marriage,etc..) and I have always been the "black sheep" of the family. My question is "How do I tell them what I feel without hurting them?" I have never wanted to disappoint my family and I know how this will crush them. They had such high hopes for me if you know what I mean.

Because you and your wife have been through this I think that you will be able to understand my confusion and heartache. Especially your wife. So maybe she can take a few minutes to respond also. I'm really torn on this right now and lost as to which path to choose. PLEASE HELP!!! Time is of the essence!!

Karen

  Karen,

I certainly understand the pain you are going through right now. It seems like your foundations have been knocked out from under you. You are frightened.

But here is the good news. Mormonism is a twisted untruth of something bigger than itself--something true. And that is the Real Gospel of Jesus Christ.

The Bible is true, Jesus Christ is, indeed, the Son of God. He is the Savior and offers freedom to you and your family.

Mormonism has muddied the waters by introducing all manner of perverted ideas. But for 2,000 years the Gospel (Good News) about Jesus has comforted millions of people and can comfort you as well. Letting go of seomething twisted does not harm you, it heals you. That is hard to see right now, but it is true.

Your challenge is to go to the Bible and read what the real truth is--for yourself! Read the book of Galatians from a modern version. Read the first eight chapters of Romans. Read the Gospel of John.

I'm praying you will find some Bible=believing friends who will help you find Christian fellowship.

As far as how to handle your family: I would wait for a while. You need to get your feet on the ground. You need to find your personal relationship with Jesus. He will never leave you nor forsake you. He will guide you and tell you how to deal with your fmaily.

If you send me your postal address, I will send you some information that will help you. In the mean time, read the articles on my web site and search the Internet for further information.

I'm praying God will draw you close to Himself and comfort you in this scary time.

Jim